Tammy Rivera Says Wives Who Leave Their Cheating Husbands Are Weak

Love and Hip Hop Atlanta Star, and wife of Rapper, Waka Flocka, Tammy Rivera, has choice words for those who would question her decision to stay with a husband who admits to being unfaithful.

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via an interview with Bleu Bombshell (Read the post HERE), Rivera had this to say about her man and her marriage:

My husband is a good man. He’s a great man, and I think in today’s society everything is so disposable. Times are not the same, women nowadays you know they say oh let me just do this, I can go out and find me another man, niggas aint nothing. You know, all of that, and I get it. But then on the other side you have men who aren’t growing up with fathers,  not making excuses for men to cheat, but you have men who never seen what a household is supposed to look like – my husband was never in a married household. He didn’t know.  His mom was a hustler, you know what i’m saying, she was out in the streets she was the mom and the dad. He doesn’t know—he grew up in the industry. He had early stardom with his career, I think Waka was in his early 20s mid 20s when he dropped his first hit. So you have all these groupies, you have all these things but despite all of that,  behind closed doors -this man loves me to death and I know he loves my child to death. He does anything for us. So, my mom always told me– you can find a man who can financially take care of you, you can find a man who might not be a cheater, might have it all together, might of grew up with a father in their household, but it’s hard to find real love and a person who genuinely loves you and who is willing to change, my husband was willing to change for his family. So why would I give up on my husband. I’m not that type, I think that’s weak of a woman to do that. It’s easier to walk away as opposed to than to speaking up!  No we’re going to fight for this we got married. My family is worth fighting for.
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Let me just say this: I write about this stuff because I’m here for the people. Y’all like it, so I gotta love it. However, I am neither enraged nor bothered by what these two have going on in their private lives. If you asked me to name one Waka Flocka song or who Tami is outside of her role on LHHATL, I’d draw a blank. But that’s not surprising. I’m grown, and married with a child of my own, so much of my time is devoted to concerning myself with my own marital business.

However, there are a plethora of young marrieds, or young singles, or young girls period who look to folks like Tami as a role model (I know). She’s a pubic figure, so I grit my teeth a bit when folks in her position are so careless in how they express their views. Listen, everybody knew she was gonna take this dude back. They all do. Nobody was surprised. But folks did, and do take issue with Tammy pointing the finger at those who might choose a different course.

So why would I give up on my husband? I’m not that type, I think that’s weak of a woman to do that.

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Ma’am,  staying with a cheating ass, lying ass man ain’t knew or hard. Leaving is hard.  If you’re comfortable in that decision and feel that he’s worth it, do you. Enjoy it and enjoy him. But what you not fitna’ do is cast aspersions on those whose boundaries are different than yours. Also, Why?

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Why are woman obligated to be strong and stand by someone who would so casually disregard his vows? I can’t say what I would do if I were in Tammy’s position, but I for sure know I wouldn’t be running around saying strong women are the women who stay.

Fight for your marriage, boo. Shit, we ALL fight for our marriages at one point or another. However, these reality TV women are playing a dangerous game. Taking that easy reality TV money in exchange for creating a society wherein vow-breaking is normalized. Wherein women are tasked with the burden or raising their husbands. Wherein women offer excuses  explanations for their misbehaving men.


Here’s how the interview should have gone

Blog: Why did you decide to stay with Waka even though he cheated?

Tammy: Well, after some time a part, and significant changes in behavior on his part, I decided to give him a second chance. I know I’m taking a risk, and we’re still working on rebuilding trust, but this is what feels right for me and my family right now. I just hope everyone can continue to wish us well as we work on rebuilding our family.


The. End.

Making this choice about anyone other than Tammy and her husband is where the problem developed. If you are honest with yourself and at peace with your decision, deflecting and defending doesn’t have to come into play.

Tammy, however, says the blog confused her words:

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Right.

Here’s what one twitter user had to say:

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Your turn! Let’s hear your thoughts below

 

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10 Comments
  1. Tammy looks like she is the weak woman here because you settled and what are you teaching your kids..
    We all had to hustle to take care of our business and even some of are single mothers playing alot of roles but we never settled. We took cate of our business and left that trifleing man alone. Because you can do bad all by yourself. God bless

  2. I feel your viewpoint cones off as hypocritical. It’s one thing to disagree with her viewpoint but to say how her response should have been done is no better than your point that Tammy should speak for all women. Both of you are sharing your point of view. I also did not interpret her comments in the same way that some are. The flipside of the independent woman movement is that many have come to look at relationships as disposable just because they don’t NEED a man. I think it’s both humbling & needed to recognize your independence & your ability to thrive at life without a man, yet be willing to put in the work to save a situation because you genuinely love that person & understand that relationships take work.

    1. Maybe. I don’t care one way or another what Tammy has chosen to do in her marriage. Good for her. My only issue is that fact that she took a position against women who choose to leave. She chose to stay? God bless, but saying it’s weak to leave? please…but hey, if that makes me a hypocrite so be it.

  3. Women are not weak to walk away, it takes alot of courage to leave the MAN you share so much with, it is good for her to stick out her marriage, but it is disrespectful to call others who walk away weak, baby girl these women are tired of being disrespected, as you said the world changed, so I guess it would be ok if he got you some std, hiv etc. cause he just a good man, you know what thumbs up for staying, fight the good fight of love, marriage commitment, BUT don’t call other women weak, that made me loose my sense of reasoning,

  4. Some women tolerate what they think they are worth. As a woman, I set the bar for how a person treats me, if a man chooses to disrespect me, it is up to me to decide if I’m willing to accept it or not. Love is an action, not a feeling… just my two cents!

  5. I don’t think walking away from a situation that you don’t want to be a part of is being weak. That’s not really fair at all. But passive aggressively taking a shot at her for her inability to basically say what she should have said is really no better than her doing the latter.

    1. saying she shouldn’t have insulted other women by saying they are weak is the same thing as staying in a marriage with a man who cheats AND calling women who leave “weak?” GIRL, BYE! You get ALL the byes….you may not have LIKED what i had to say, and that’s fine, but to opine that my opinion on my blog is even remotely parallel to Tammy’s interview is, by far, the most absurd load of crap i’ve read all day. LMFAO, where did you even come up with that? LOL!!! woo, chile!! LOL…that was a good one.

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