Today I’m doing something I never thought I’d do: I’m writing about Chris Brown. I know, but alas, here we are. There is a lesson in his latest tirade, however, that I think is important enough to break my own rule against ever mentioning him on this blog. And just so you’re clear, my disdain for Chris Brown began when he was convicted of beating up his then girlfriend, Rihanna.
My intolerance for his antics has only grown over time because he continues to behave in ways that suggest his almost inherent hatred for women. It’s frightening, to say the least. His latest tirade against his ex-girlfriend, Karrueche Tran, only highlights the fact that not only is he a misogynist, but he is proud of it.
So here’s what happened:
Rapper, Soulja Boy, alleges that Chris Brown called him up and threatened to beat him up because Soulja Boy placed smiley face emojis beneath Karrueche’s picture on IG:
Chris Brown says he never threatened Soulja Boy over the emojis. Now the two of them are all over IG posting back and forth threats of violence against one another.
Sidebar: I can’t believe I’m actually writing about this…
Anyhoo, Karrueche responded to all the drama with this:
To which Chris Brown replied:
And in case you didn’t know, Karrueche, was the ride or die who remained with Brown while he did a stint in jail. During their time together he fathered a child with another woman, and that Love-child, Royalty, is what eventually led to the demise of their relationship.
But let’s talk about his rant shall we? Clearly he’s got some unresolved feelings and anger towards Karrueche. Fine. They were together, and now they aren’t. What strikes me about his rant, however, is how hateful he is towards all women, not just Karrueche. And no, this isn’t just Chris Brown being Chris Brown.
The way in which he tries to shame her friends for allegedly having sex with him, the use of profanities against Karrueche, and his instance that Karrueche is only valuable because of him, is the kind of stuff we hear all too often from “our” men. This is more than a lover’s quarrel. This is a person of influence and power, using his influence to normalize this kind of behavior. And when we talk about wanting our men to speak up when we are being publicly shamed or abused, this is what we mean. Where are the other men of influence speaking up to condemn the way in which Chris Brown is speaking about a woman?
Yes the basis for his anger is stupid as hell. Yes these are rich people with too much time on their hands. But I’ve seen far too many instances of Brown’s line of thinking popping up in the real world, and it’s dangerous. Violence against women is real. And frankly, anyone who continues to prove that he harbors such a deep-seated hatred for women should not continue to be granted free reign to spread about this very dangerous and hurtful rhetoric.