A Friendship Breakup Might Be the BEST Thing to Happen to You and Here’s Why:

A relationship coming to an end can be devastating, but if you’re growing as a person, you are bound to lose some friends along the way. It’s par for the course, but it shouldn’t feel like the end of the world. I’ve been there.

I went through a series of friendship breakups between 2008 and 2010. At first it was upsetting, but as the dust settled, and I became accustomed to my new life without these relationships, I realized the incredible blessing it was to go through those breakups.

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Here’s What I I Know About Friendships

  1. Friendships are easy. They are the relationships we choose. If it is not easy, it’s because you have chosen to be in a difficult relationship, and you need to take some time to yourself and figure out why you would make that choice.   friendship-breakup-tips3
  2. When you know yourself, you choose better friends. You become better at selecting people who compliment your life.  *Sidenote* This amazing highlight is courtesy of Anastasia Beverly Hills Glow Kit in Sun-Dipped. Buy it by clicking HERE and thank me later.friendship-breakup-tips1
  3. When you value yourself you become better at discerning the people who come into your life. In other words, when you know you’re amazing, you won’t waste a moment of your time with someone who doesn’t recognize that you’re amazing.friendship-breakup-tips4
  4. When you feel as though you need a friend, it’s time to pump the breaks and here’s why: People are people. They go through their own stuff that, at times, may prevent them from being what you need when you need it. So, in order for you to really appreciate the relationship and deal with the changes that may develop over time, you have to be okay without it. If you honestly feel as though you need a relationship, especially a relationship that is bringing you displeasure and angst,  it’s time to spend some time in counseling to get that sorted out. friendship-breakup-tips5
  5. You are a better friend when you are a friend to yourself. Many of us are accustomed to doing more for others than we do for ourselves. Selflessness is viewed as some sort of badge of honor. Selflessness, in friendship, is a recipe for disaster. Treat yourself like a queen and you’ll be a healthier and happier friend.

My Final Bit of Advice

You’ll be okay. A loss is a loss and it will be hard. Disappointment is a part of life, but you have to learn from it. No doubt you have plenty of happy memories of your time together. Hold onto that, and wish you friend well.  The sun will shine again, and I’m living proof.

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If you’ve gone through a friendship breakup feel free to share your advice below!
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Well Hello! My name is Lisa and you've stumbled upon my own little corner of the world. I'm a lipstick-loving, high heel junkie, mom, and wife. When I'm not here bringing you the latest in beauty, fashion, hot topics, and bits and pieces of my life with my family, you can find me over on youtube swatching lipsticks and sharing my latest natural hairstyles. Make sure you also follow me on Instagram and Snapchat under my brand name Lisa A La Mode. I'm a real person. I promise.

8 Comments
  1. Your page is giving me such life today! I actually went through this also recently,and with some extended family members and it hurt me to the core. After being depressed over the situation for most ot the summer, I am finally realizing a lot of what you have written here: self-love is so important….

  2. I have cut out most of the toxic friendships that I have been having but I am finding it hard to make genuine friends. I miss those friends even though they were not good for my sanity or progress. How does one make friendships that encourage growth and support each other? I seem to be failing in this department. Great post as always
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    1. honestly. I stopped looking and realized i had amazing friends all around me. If you miss people who were harmful to you it sounds like you need to spend more time discovering what you “think” you need from these harmful/toxic people. The time I spent in therapy REALLY helped me to develop a higher self-esteem and a much better sense of self. If you look for people to fill a need you have you will always come up short.

  3. Great post and really great points. Losing friends can be tough, but if you know in your heart you’ve done all you can do try and make it work, sometimes you just have to walk away. Things will work themselves out… Or not. Either way, I think the most important thing is being OK with the decision to end a friendship, or being OK with losing that friend. Acceptance is key. Thanks again for sharing!

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