So last night I’m scrolling through posts on Madame Noire, when I come upon this one:
I haven’t watched Keeping Up With The Kardashians in a few years, but this post got my attention immediately. However, as I began to read the post in its entirety, I had one thought:
You can read the article HERE but here’s the gist of it:
This episode was all about Kim trying to learn how to style North’s hair. As we know, Kim’s hair is naturally straight, but North has what looks like 3a curls, very soft and high luster when wet, but clearly prone to frizz and dryness when left to its own devices.
I’m team #freetheblackchild, so if I were in Kim’s shoes, I’d slap a headband on the baby and keep it pushing. But, kudos to Kim, she used this episode to talk about her struggle with North’s curly hair. Kim spoke about not knowing how to braid, so she called in a professional stylist and her homegirls to help teach her. By the end of the episode we see North rocking her mommy-made braids(you can watch the clip here):
But the Madame Noire writer wasn’t here for it, and I quote:
North west is one-sixth of the way to grown and has the soft, wavy-ringlet hair of a baby doll. About the only noticeable difference between Kim’s fine strands and those of her daughter is the curl on the end — and that’s hardly enough to make braiding so difficult you have to enlist the help of Kim Kimble. If Kim would’ve just stuck to her point about wanting to do more with North’s hair than throw it in buns and ponytails, cool. But to make it about North’s hair being curly is silly, especially when we’re talking about a toddler in the 3a range. There’s plenty Kim can do with her daughter’s hair, starting with let it be free.
Here are some images of North’s hair. Her curls seem to comb out pretty straight, but can otherwise go from 2c, to 3c real quick:
But the writer wasn’t done:
I’m far less concerned with Kim’s braiding skills than I am her education about “curly hair” such as her daughter’s. Styling is only one piece of the puzzle, actual hair care is a whole other — and a key one if Kim is going to keep braiding North’s hair and putting it in tight buns and ponytails. I’m curious how much effort Kim has put into learning what products work best for North since her hair is so different from hers. Considering she didn’t realize what an issue racism is until she had her biracial children I’m guessing none. I’m also wondering where Kanye’s Black aunties and cousins who can show his wife a thing or two about Black hair care are but that’s an entirely different discussion.
Here’s What’s All The Way Wrong With This Mothaeffin Post
- We all know good and G*d damn well that it is commonplace for Black women to shame the hell out of White mothers for not appropriately styling their bi-racial children’s hair. Shoot, even King Beyonce had to endure the internet dragging her baby because she and Jigga weren’t overly concerned with putting Blue’s hair in bobbles and slicking her edges down.
- We also know that hair, in our community holds entirely too much significance for my liking. Hair, especially our natural hair, is damn near sacred. So if Kim EVA let that baby outside without her hair perfectly coiffed we’d be flooding the woman’s timeline with death threats.
- Were we NOT the same group who proceeded to DRAG the hell out of Deepika Mutyala from the Today Show (Read about it HERE and HERE), when she attempted to style a Black woman’s hair?
- The writer suggests that North’s hair is easy and soft, and therefore shouldn’t be a challenge. She reinforces the notion that if you have tighter and kinkier curls your hair is more challenging, and only then, would Kim have room to complain about North’s hair. I REBUKE the 4c shame in the name of all that is Holy. No ma’am. Do not assume. I have enough biracial and multi-racial people in my own family to have seen with my own eyes that the hair you think is easy peasy ain’t all that easy peasy. You ever try braiding silky a$$ hair? No ma’am.
- The writer goes on to question why Kanye’s aunties and cousins didn’t help out. Ma’am get out of married people’s family business. Maybe they don’t want to be on the show. Maybe they came another day when nobody was filming. Maybe Kim doesn’t eff with them like that. Maybe Kanye doesn’t eff with them like that. Maybe the producers cut that part out of the episode. Why weren’t her two black friends and a black stylist enough?
- The writer also takes a jab at Kim for not acknowledging her white privilege until she had bi-racial children. Ma’am, let me get this straight: You’re mad, when a white person admits to their white privilege and wants to do better? Did we not have to create a whole movie called Dear White People, so more white folks could get it. And you’re still mad?
- The writer goes on to opine that the episode should have been about caring for North’s hair and the best products and so forth. Ma’am, this isn’t a youtube tutorial. The woman spoke openly about wanting to learn how to braid. You even owned that you can’t braid, but you wanted to write, direct, produce, and edit this episode into something it wasn’t?
I’m a blogger too, so I get it. Sometimes you see stuff and you got to your blog to vent and share your thoughts. But I also know that when it comes to some celebs I’m biased AF, so I don’t write about them. Chris Brown could go out right now and donate every last dollar he has to some charity, and I’d still find myself saying something petty about the donation. Why? Because I’m not here for him. Never will be. Same goes for R. Kelley. My belief is that this writer’s own dislike of Kim and the Kardashian brand didn’t allow her to see the good in this episode. Instead, she was only able to hone in on the “extraness” of Kim’s description of North’s hair.
My Final Thoughts
Black women, Black mothers especially, let us not stoop so low into the shallow Sea of Pettiness that this is who we become. Let us rise up from its murky, misery-laden depth, and bathe ourselves anew in the Ocean of Mind Your Damn Business.
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