Tamar Braxton Reads The H*ll Out of Fan For Criticizing her Son And I Am Here For It

If there’s one thing I can’t stand it’s folks talking about people’s kids and how folks choose to parent said children. As a first time Mom, I do a lot of what other first-time Moms do: compare your child to other children to get a sense of where they should be. Sure, we consult our doctors and read resources online, but looking at what other kids are doing is almost always the default. We shouldn’t do it, but we can’t help it. What’s worse, Moms sometimes think they know what’s best for other children based on their experience with their own. If you are neither spending a significant amount of time with a child, nor are you a licensed child development expert: Keep your mouth shut about other people’s kids.

That’s exactly what Tamar Braxton had to tell a fan yesterday:

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Preach.

This week has been the week of folks being judgmental as hell about  mothers. First we had an editor at Madame Noire (read about it HERE) coming for Kim Kardashian about how she views North’s hair, and now this.

Listen, I get it, celebs put their business out there so we sometimes feel that they are less than human or perhaps more accessible than they really are. Why this woman felt privileged enough to speak publicly about another woman’s child’s speech development is beyond me. It’s often a hard balance for those of us who share so much of our public lives. My son is a huge part of who I am, and he’s slowly becoming a part of my overall brand, but I often vacillate between sharing him and then deleting all mention of him online. Why? Cuz folks get too damn familiar. Sharing images or videos of our children is not an invitation for strangers to question us or our children.

And while we’re at it, this video has been going around too, and it again makes me mad AF:

The question alone implies that this mother who knows her child above any of us watching is doing something wrong. What I see above is a mother exercising extreme patience with a child who is not yet able to adequately express his frustration. In short, he’s having a tantrum and she’s trying her best to calm him down. The introduction of a pacifier to a child who looks like a big 3 or 4 year-old, signals to me that he may suffer from some behavioral problems. He may even have special needs.. For all we know the child is due for his medication. Sure she could yell at him, spank him, grab him more aggressively, but why is she required to respond to her child in that manner? No doubt she’s probably tried your way and with her child, and it doesn’t work. He’s not behaving violently and he’s not endangering himself or her. He’s screaming and crying. Big deal.

Rather than have compassion for this woman who is clearly in a stressful and frustrating circumstance, we’re circling around this video. If she were beating him, we’d be circling around a video of a child abuser, and she’d be in jail.

I know I’m ranting, but we have all go to do better. Leave people’s kids alone.

 

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Well Hello! My name is Lisa and you've stumbled upon my own little corner of the world. I'm a lipstick-loving, high heel junkie, mom, and wife. When I'm not here bringing you the latest in beauty, fashion, hot topics, and bits and pieces of my life with my family, you can find me over on youtube swatching lipsticks and sharing my latest natural hairstyles. Make sure you also follow me on Instagram and Snapchat under my brand name Lisa A La Mode. I'm a real person. I promise.

9 Comments
  1. I understand Tamar’s frustration. However, parents are often the last to accept that their child needs ant type of therapy.
    I am a mom of 2. The sister of a Special needs adult & a Special Education Educator/Educational Diagnostician (w/20 years experience).
    Speech Therapy is not an insult…it doesn’t mean the child isn’t intelligent.

    1. It may not have been meant as a insult but the fact is she took it as such. Personally as fast as she wanted Tamar to love her advice she needs to love Tamar’s response. U don’t put other people’s kids in ur mouth and u have never spent a moment with them. U leave ur self open to the response she got. Just because her child needed speech doesn’t mean every kid a slurred speech has the same issue.

    2. Whether or not the child actually needs speech therapy is not the point. The point is some random stranger who does not know mother or chold, insinuating that this chold has a problem or disability in a public forum. Period!!

  2. As for the video with the caption, “what would you do?” Mind my own business immediately comes to mind. I’m just curious as to who was filming and why.

    Social media has basically killed boundaries and people feel sitting behind a computer to say whatever they want without consequence. And Tamar was like nah.

    Seriously, do people honestly think with the resources that child’s parents have he isn’t getting EVERYTHING he needs and more?

    1. The mom in that video had her older child filming it for the Dr. Phil show. She had been posting tons of videos documenting the child for a while and then wrote into the show.

  3. I’m more frustrated at the fact that the person, who I’m sure can see she’s not having him, is more interested in capturing it on video rather than offering assistance.

    1. Right! What would I do… How about put the phone away and offer to take the things out of her hands so she can get pick the baby up and get him in the car. What is wrong with people?

  4. Mind your business, stay in your lane. Why do people feel a need to give advice on others children. I am sure she knows what her child needs. We only see bits and pieces of celebs life. We don’t know these people. They are parents just like others who are parents. It just none of anyone’s business.

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