Love and Hip Hop Atlanta Star, and wife of Rapper, Waka Flocka, Tammy Rivera, has choice words for those who would question her decision to stay with a husband who admits to being unfaithful.
via an interview with Bleu Bombshell (Read the post HERE), Rivera had this to say about her man and her marriage:
My husband is a good man. He’s a great man, and I think in today’s society everything is so disposable. Times are not the same, women nowadays you know they say oh let me just do this, I can go out and find me another man, niggas aint nothing. You know, all of that, and I get it. But then on the other side you have men who aren’t growing up with fathers, not making excuses for men to cheat, but you have men who never seen what a household is supposed to look like – my husband was never in a married household. He didn’t know. His mom was a hustler, you know what i’m saying, she was out in the streets she was the mom and the dad. He doesn’t know—he grew up in the industry. He had early stardom with his career, I think Waka was in his early 20s mid 20s when he dropped his first hit. So you have all these groupies, you have all these things but despite all of that, behind closed doors -this man loves me to death and I know he loves my child to death. He does anything for us. So, my mom always told me– you can find a man who can financially take care of you, you can find a man who might not be a cheater, might have it all together, might of grew up with a father in their household, but it’s hard to find real love and a person who genuinely loves you and who is willing to change, my husband was willing to change for his family. So why would I give up on my husband. I’m not that type, I think that’s weak of a woman to do that. It’s easier to walk away as opposed to than to speaking up! No we’re going to fight for this we got married. My family is worth fighting for.
Let me just say this: I write about this stuff because I’m here for the people. Y’all like it, so I gotta love it. However, I am neither enraged nor bothered by what these two have going on in their private lives. If you asked me to name one Waka Flocka song or who Tami is outside of her role on LHHATL, I’d draw a blank. But that’s not surprising. I’m grown, and married with a child of my own, so much of my time is devoted to concerning myself with my own marital business.
However, there are a plethora of young marrieds, or young singles, or young girls period who look to folks like Tami as a role model (I know). She’s a pubic figure, so I grit my teeth a bit when folks in her position are so careless in how they express their views. Listen, everybody knew she was gonna take this dude back. They all do. Nobody was surprised. But folks did, and do take issue with Tammy pointing the finger at those who might choose a different course.
So why would I give up on my husband? I’m not that type, I think that’s weak of a woman to do that.
Ma’am, staying with a cheating ass, lying ass man ain’t knew or hard. Leaving is hard. If you’re comfortable in that decision and feel that he’s worth it, do you. Enjoy it and enjoy him. But what you not fitna’ do is cast aspersions on those whose boundaries are different than yours. Also, Why?
Why are woman obligated to be strong and stand by someone who would so casually disregard his vows? I can’t say what I would do if I were in Tammy’s position, but I for sure know I wouldn’t be running around saying strong women are the women who stay.
Fight for your marriage, boo. Shit, we ALL fight for our marriages at one point or another. However, these reality TV women are playing a dangerous game. Taking that easy reality TV money in exchange for creating a society wherein vow-breaking is normalized. Wherein women are tasked with the burden or raising their husbands. Wherein women offer
excuses explanations for their misbehaving men.
Here’s how the interview should have gone
Blog: Why did you decide to stay with Waka even though he cheated?
Tammy: Well, after some time a part, and significant changes in behavior on his part, I decided to give him a second chance. I know I’m taking a risk, and we’re still working on rebuilding trust, but this is what feels right for me and my family right now. I just hope everyone can continue to wish us well as we work on rebuilding our family.
Making this choice about anyone other than Tammy and her husband is where the problem developed. If you are honest with yourself and at peace with your decision, deflecting and defending doesn’t have to come into play.
Tammy, however, says the blog confused her words:
Here’s what one twitter user had to say:
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