When I first saw this picture posted HERE via Black Girl With Long Hair, I sort of brushed it off.
The above is photo of Actor Lance Gross and wife Rebecca Jefferson, taken during their annual couples vacation in Big Bear, New York.
While I am a dark skinned black woman who speaks loudly and frequently about colorism (see my most recent post on the topic HERE), even I can get a little exhausted by the ways in which colorism divides and conquers every. single. day.
So I didn’t want give into it. I wanted to believe it was innocent fun, and on some level it was. I’m sure it was. However, this photo has sparked a debate about colorism, with many people seeing this picture as perpetuating the “lonely, single dark skin woman” stereotype. Furthermore, all of these dark skin black men are all booed up with women who could easily pass for a race other than black. So I gave the picture a second look, and allowed myself to see what everyone else saw right away. To add insult to injury, the woman sparking much of the debate offered this defense of the picture:
Listen, I get. These are her friends and she doesn’t want to see why this photo is problematic, but it is. Even if we don’t want it to be. Even if we want to just kick back and have light-hearted jokes with our friends, we know by now we don’t always have that luxury. Even if we are in the comfort of our homes with our friends, we should all know by now that we can’t be deaf and dumb when it comes to what we put out and into the world. Any way you slice it, this picture isn’t a good look.
So sister-girl, if you don’t see that you are the butt of a long-standing joke, that’s on you. But you can’t be mad at us for seeing what you don’t want to see. And it sucks, i get it, it casts a shadow on what you felt was a good time had by all; however, wishing this picture isn’t what it is, doesn’t make it go away. We aren’t mad at any one person in the picture, we’re just mad at what it represents. #staywoke
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