This White Woman Schools The Hell Out of These Self-Hating Black Men On Dating App

So apparently these are a few screenshots this woman had with more than one black man via the dating app Tinder. As you can see below, the conversation is had with different men, but the gist is the same. To be fair, we don’t know if the woman is in fact white, or if she is a black woman posing as a white woman, HOWEVER, I think the message is still valid.

Having a preference is fine, but to exclude an entire group of women who look like you is bizarre to say the least. And yes, it’s a dating app so there will be creeps of every variety, but we all know these men aren’t just creeps. These are the kinds of messages we see far  too often with far too many black men from all walks of life.  Read for yourself:

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Well Hello! My name is Lisa and you've stumbled upon my own little corner of the world. I'm a lipstick-loving, high heel junkie, mom, and wife. When I'm not here bringing you the latest in beauty, fashion, hot topics, and bits and pieces of my life with my family, you can find me over on youtube swatching lipsticks and sharing my latest natural hairstyles. Make sure you also follow me on Instagram and Snapchat under my brand name Lisa A La Mode. I'm a real person. I promise.

  1. That was awesome. Why? Has somewhat nothing to do with a white girl shaming a black guy for His self hate but she just actually proved she doesnt waist her time on a person who hates himself and will completely put himself and others down. She proves she can stand without putting someone else down. They (bkacj men( sound like slaves or creatures who just want to be excepted.

  2. Ha ha….I love it!!! Clap, clap clap to the white girl.
    Here is the reality. The reality is that 90% of black men who date or married white women do so because of self hate. Where I live black men will not even speak and say hi to a black woman while in the presence of their girlfriend or wife. There’s something wrong with that!! you cannot speak to your own people? you cannot speak to a black woman while you in the presence of a white woman? What that means is that your motivation and reason for marrying or dating white women is not honest or pure at all.
    Something is wrong with that. If you are a black man and you believe that all men are created equal then there should be no problem speaking to all (black women) people.

    1. Not All blacks that date other races self-hate. I love WHO I Am as a BROWN WOMAN and I’ve dated black, white, Hispanic, doesn’t mean I hate who I am. I CHOOSE to LOVE the MAN who TRULY LOVES ME regardless of color.
      There are those, one can clearly pin point, the ones that speak harshly against the opposite sex of their race, giving explanation as to why they DON’T date that race.
      But you can’t stereotype and clump every person who decides to date a person that doesn’t resemble them as #SELFHATERS

      1. S/he said 90% of black men date for self-hate. So s/he NEVER SAID ALL. And it’s the truth, WHY ARE YOU OFFENDED IF IT DOESNT INVOLVE YOU? Does your man ever downgraded his female counterpart to unlift your non-black self? Y

        Yes? Then he is only dating you because of his self-hate.

  3. This isn’t anything new. Black men aren’t nearly as sought after as they wish they were. White women marry white men almost exclusively. If you think about it, black men have suffered through the worst hell at the hands of their precious snow bunnies. Anyone remember Rosewood? Nearly every time a black man or community has been destroyed, it has been at the hands of a white woman. Black men are a lost cause and I’m done fighting for them.

  4. They do in fact sound ignorant (especially the first one) but I doubt it will change how they feel about black women. You date who you want but don’t put a black woman down because of your inability to see her beauty. You were probably birthed by a dark skinned woman that just shows how much appreciation you have.

  5. This is funny and sad at the same time. I commend her for calling them on their attitude but guys like that is usually a lost cause. Their self loathing is too deep to be pierced by a few words and most don’t want to change anyway.

  6. I think it’s obvious that this is a black female posing as a white woman to set these sambos straight. Still funny though.

    1. I dont, I have seen fat white girl. Passing up on black guys. They are starting to wake up & see our truth. You all just think black women hate for no real cause. This shit is real. Eventually, white girl gonna wake up and realize they are without support from black baby daddy’s. They are re-evaluate reality. And, understanding black women tell the truth about the man we help raise. Sad but true …

  7. Wow…. That’s what’s up??? She kept it ALL THE WAY REAL… The part that I liked was how she said that her Black girlfriends has already warned her about men like him.. To me, she was really showing LOVE and sticking up for her Black Friends as well as other black women

  8. I appreciate this. And I don’t know that it’s obviously a black woman faking it because I can think immediately think of three white women I know who know whats up. They express support for us in a very useful way. And before I finished typing this, I thought of two others.

    The other thing is, I”ve had the urge to have similar comebacks at white men who fetishize black women. Instead, I just hit the block button.

  9. Sounds very fake in my honest opinion. No white woman speaks in this way. Definitely a black woman posing as a white woman. Also, if those black men are even real as well… They’re dumb as hell. I’m guessing fake too. This is the Internet people. Agendas are rife… Take with a pinch of salt and focus on yourself.

    1. The truth hurts doesn’t it.
      Oh yes women won’t play the fool for to long.
      It hard for white to take a blow to the ego. It’s not about their white skin. Some black man has been damaged by the effects of slavery & society. It not natural some of them who this way. Most black man dates white female by default. & because of self hate.
      Who would accept or respect a person whom doesn’t respect his own race. Take your ego out the picture & think something is wrong with them. ….another example since it so hard to believe. When a guy or girl say, my mother & I don’t have a good relationship. Please believe some major damage happen. Because, that type of behavior just don’t happen that, much between children & parent. Unnatural & it not the norm. So, believe, believe, believe. Becky/ whites got major sense. It not about giving black girl high five. It the real .

  10. This is not cute. Does this black woman have better things to do than pose as a white woman? I know white girls who are like this but yeah it’s more likely a black girl posing as a white girl which is even more problematic and concerning. I think the author should have taken that into consideration before posting it because it kind of discredits the whole purpose and makes black women look crazy.Sorry I disagree with the author entirely. I think it kind of invalidates the message. I think a black woman posing as a white woman has no right to try to school a black man on having a preference for white women. Now if she were legitimately white, absolutely. Even the most woke white people don’t refer to black people in a tribal sense i.e. “Your own” women. Come on. Who is the one with the REAL issues, here? Let’s stop applauding a black woman who is posing as a white girl. That’s not cute. There are so many BW on Facebook I had to delete for stealing my pictures and stealing pictures of random ir couples. I can’t trust black women online anymore- if they won’t meet me for lunch, and have no personal pictures on Facebook. No pictures of them outside or with another human being. I can’t be friends with them.

    1. I think you should have read what I wrote instead of just reading the screenshots. Second, your argument is bogus as hell. It doesn’t matter if someone was posing. These kinds of men DO exist, and it’s nice to see them being called out. That’s the point. The fact that you’re so hung up on the “posing” instead of the message speaks more about you than anything else. Don’t meet folks online and you’ll be fine.

    2. You sound like the ignorant black men that the white woman was referring to. You don’t sound like a woman either. It sounds like you’re posing as one. What black woman on Facebook is stealing your picture? Then you mentioned you can’t trust black women on Facebook anymore. Self- hatred yet again!! Please shut up and stop with your ignorance!!!

  11. Oh and dude the black woman did not hang you from a tree while their women and children watched and did not say a word. A black woman did not pull you over and shoot you dead because you are black and have to be up to some criminal activity.
    The black women did not tempt you to have sex and when you got caught cried rape.
    The black woman did not sell your mulatto baby. You are still getting beaten down and killed. You should not hate yourself. You should be mad as hell. Do something. Don’t put black women down. You don’t know every black woman in this world.

  12. Well there you have it black men embarrassing themselves…. Desperate and thirsty as ever….
    I have heard and seen with my own eyes women rejecting their advances and finding those type of males to be gross.
    Not all black males are on white girls jock and vice versa. Not all white women want a black man either so its believable. She just has more sense then the average instead of being flattered by black men dissing themselves and their people to seem or sound more attractive to a woman of a different nationality… Its so disgraceful but its more common than you might think.

  13. Why do we choose to shame any black person for this type of thinking and behavior when our societies have taught and reinforced anti-blackness, at every level, openly and subtlety, everywhere we turn? This line of thinking is actually a completely natural reaction to generations of white supremacist logic. Some of us have had the privilege of certain forms of awareness-raising that have helped us to “get woke” but many of us still struggle to resist that self-hatred due to the constant onslaught of macro/microaggressions. Our intellectual pontificating and psychological shaming is an inappropriate response to an extraordinarily complex problem. We’d be better off expending our energies on putting our heads to figure out how to heighten awareness of the effects of internalized racism, promote black pride and engage in resistance. As a wise man once told me that “wellness is an action word.”

  14. I am a white woman & I will surely stick up for black women. I will never understand why a black man chooses these ugly white women when I see a lot of nice looking black women around. I think it’s because they will put up with anything they dish out. Black women think black men treat white women better but they don’t. White women just play dumb or are dumb (not sure which) & they get cheated on badly.

  15. I’m sooooo very happy she called his black **s out! KUDOS!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
    There are absolutely too many guys with that type of stupidly ignorant views. And how would he feel if men felt that way about his Mom and the other Females in his life? If his Father was that ignorant, his stupidly ignorant **s wouldn’t be here!!! SMH. The nerve of him!


  17. I love this, these Black men and their weird White women fetish. Meanwhile their White men label them rapist and plot their demise one shooting at a time and they turn their back on the only group of people who truly have their back, their own. Drag em sis! Forget these Playboi carti, Lil Wayne, A$AP Rocky, Taye Diggs, Trey Songz, Tyrese, Kanye West headass fools.

  18. Black women to black women. Stop evening commenting or showing any concern about black men and who they chose to date, love or marry. Stop even showing concern about all the hatefulness coming from them to us. Stop feeding into it as if we really even care anymore. They dont deserve that much attention. Most likely we didn’t really want him anyway. Truth be told. So just move on and do us. Also stop supporting them. Stop caring and playing super woman and saviour. They(most black men) could give a crap about us. Unless he has nothing and needs a strong black woman to have his back until he makes it and can get a non black women. Stop supporting him. Stop believing his words. Examine his actions and walk away. Let her have him. Stay alone and work on your own growth and healing. Or if you wish date other men and do not care what anyone including other black women have to say about it. Free yourself and stop falling into brainwash by ignorant black men. You deserve goodness. Life is too short.

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