I have declared 2017 to be my year of truth. The year in which I use this blog to bring you the truth as I know it. These truths will mostly speak to a black female audience, as I am a black woman. However, my hope is that my posts simply reach an audience that is willing to listen.
That being said, this is, by far, one of the most difficult posts for me to share. However, it’s too powerful to not be shared more broadly. I have chosen to conceal the name of the poster, as well as the faces of the people she accuses as a safety precaution, however the screenshots below, tell it all.
The woman, who shall remain nameless, alleges that her Step-Father, a middle-school math teacher and veteran, is a serial adulterer and a pedophile.
She begins the post by sharing a throw back photo of her still-married parents, and follows with the this caption:
The unabashed bravery this woman has shown by not only sharing her truth, but also naming names is nothing short of commendable. Others, however, didn’t see it that way:
Overall I found the comment section to be long and exhausting. While the OP had plenty of support for speaking loudly and fearlessly, the comments were also filled with people who know the accused and demand that that the accussor show proof of the abuse. These comments, of course, speak volumes about the way in which victims of sexual assault are treated. If you were silent then, even if you were a child, you must always remain silent, as speaking is almost always met with skepticism.
I’m sharing this post because it is raw and unfiltered. We tip-toe around sexual violence far too frequently. We refuse to accept the word of the victim because they are often women, and patriarchy has taught us that women are not to be trusted. Calling us “fast”, while asserting that “boys will be boys.” Meanwhile, statistics repeatedly show that the vast majority of these kinds of allegations are indeed true.
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