This life ain’t easy. Let me say that one more ‘gain. This life ain’t easy. And the older you get the harder the challenges. Can I get an amen?
A few weeks ago I was feeling really down on myself. My birthday is in a few weeks and I was feeling less than accomplished. We don’t own a home, I haven’t made dent in our student loans, and JB will be four this year without a sibling. Let’s not even talk about the amount of pressure I feel as a full-time entrepreneur and blogger. While I don’t regret embarking on this journey (read about it HERE and HERE), learning how to make it all work has been one of the greatest challenges of my life.
While I feel confident in the quality of the content I produce, and the way in which I present myself to the world, as bloggers, we routinely measure our success by 1. Followers 2. Engagement. 3. Recognition from major brands. What’s worse is that we measure these three things against our peers in the industry.
Measuring where we are against where your peers are isn’t unique to bloggers. We all do it. Call it FOMO, call it envy, call it whatever you want, but we all do it. And there’s nothing to be gained from it. If you spend your days watching what other people are doing you will never, ever, EVER, reach your potential. Also, you’ll continue to feel bad about yourself. How can you be better and do better when you feel like shit?
Social media makes it virtually impossible to live your life without being flooded with images of people who are living the same lime but 10xs better (or so it seems.) I’ve read and written a lot about self-care, and usually the self-help books and experts tell us to take walks, go to the gym, practice yoga and meditation, all of which is great. But do you know what the single best thing I’ve done for myself in the last week that has miraculously made me feel 10xs better about myself?
I stopped comparing myself to my peers. I even unfollowed some folks on Instagram and Facebook. Some may call it petty, but I call it self-care. And it works. You are under no obligation to do things that cause you harm. And feeling shitty about yourself is harmful.
Of course, ridding yourself of outside noise is only the first step. Once you’ve begun to feel better about yourself, you should continue to practice self-care in other ways, whether it be taking long and luxurious showers (my personal fave), spending time with friends a few times a month, working out, or going to a movie alone. You have to determine what self-care means to you, but before you can even begin to feel like taking care of yourself, you must first see begin to recognize your own greatness, your own power.
What’s one thing that always makes you feel better about yourself? Sound off below!
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